As far as I know demander means "to ask", "to ask for", etc... So if I want to say "He asked for me", I have to back-translate it to

Il m'a demandé.

My problem is: How to say "He asked me"?

I myself think the latter lacks elements and is incomplete in the meaning, because "to ask" requires two kinds of answers: ask (1) sb (2) sth.

So I myself think that the above sentence is not complete, is it? Am I right? Or there are other things that I don't see?

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    He asked for me is most definitely not: il m'a demandé. Also, what exactly do you mean by back-translation? Please contextualize; He asked for me. In what context? He asked for me at the front desk. For example?
    – Lambie
    Commented Apr 8, 2017 at 16:02
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    I agree that "il m'a demandé" sounds weird. "On me demande" is completely idiomatic though, so I think the question is quite valid...
    – qoba
    Commented Apr 8, 2017 at 16:35
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    Also, when you mention indirect and direct objects which language are you referring to? I find your question to be quite confusing.
    – Lambie
    Commented Apr 8, 2017 at 16:38
  • @Lambie “Il m'a demandé” is a perfectly idiomatic way to say “he asked for me”. It's a lot more common to express “he asked me something” than “he asked for me”, but when you want to say “he asked for me”, “Il m'a demandé” can be the right way. Commented Apr 8, 2017 at 20:48
  • @Gilles He asked for me is not He asked me something in English. Ce n'est pas du tout la même chose. He asked for me that night, at the front desk, on the phone. He asked me something that night, at the front desk, on the phone. Pas du tout pareil.
    – Lambie
    Commented Apr 8, 2017 at 21:36

3 Answers 3


You're right — there is no difference between those two pronouns on the surface.

Short version

If all I had was « Elle m'a demandé » I would assume me was a direct object. "She asked for me."

If me were meant to be the indirect object, you would probably see a phrase like one of these instead:

Elle me l'a demandé. She asked me for it.

Elle (l')a demandé à moi. She asked me (and not someone else).


When demander has both a direct and an indirect object, the direct object is the thing being requested and the indirect object is the addressee:

Elle m'a demandé une lettre de recommandation. She asked me for a reference letter.

Elle me l'a demandée. She asked me for it (=the letter).

In both cases, it's clear that me is indirect because there's an unambiguous direct object.

So what if you only have one? The direct object alone works pretty well.

Elle a demandé un verre d'eau. She asked for a glass of water.
Elle l'a demandé. She asked for it.

The indirect object alone feels more unfinished without further context.

Elle lui a demandé. She asked him.

For what? The direct object would have to have come up earlier to be omitted now.

One situation might be if you were stressing who was asked — but then you would use the disjoint at the end of the sentence:

Hier il a demandé à Jeanne si elle était célibataire. Yesterday he asked Joan if she was single.
Ben non, il m'a demandé → il a demandé à moi ! Huh? No, he asked me!

Another example might be if you're stressing the action of asking:

Elle aurait dû demander à toi si ça serait OK. She should have asked you if that would be okay.
→ Ben oui, elle m'a demandé en fait. Actually, she did ask me.

This does look like your example sentence, and is fairly unambiguous.

But since you need some context to make that work, if I encountered « Elle m'a demandé » in the wild, I'd assume me was the direct object.

This is even more true when you consider that the above sentence is more likely to come out as this:

Ben oui, elle me l'a demandé en fait. Actually, she did ask me that.

There are two reasons for this. First, as qoba says below, it's to address the exact problem you raise: if you don't include le, you can't be 100% sure about me.

Second, it's just a little more natural in French to include the pronoun le even when the direct object is a whole clause, and even when English would omit it:

As you know, letters are intended to be for current students.
→ Comme vous le savez, les lettres sont destinées aux étudiants actuels.

Then will you help me? — Yes, I will.
→ M'aiderez-vous donc ? — Oui, je le ferai.

So "he asked me" (or anyone else) is pretty unlikely to appear word-for-word in French.

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    When I think about how I would express things in certain situations, it seems to be that I would be tempted to add a direct object when using the pronoun as indirect object alone would be ambiguous. For example the "L'" in "il me l'a demandé" or "la question" in "il m'a posé la question" removes the ambiguity about whether "me" is the direct or indirect object.
    – qoba
    Commented Apr 8, 2017 at 16:40
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    Thanks, @qoba. I've been thinking about this answer and questioning my instinct, so probably before long I'll make an edit, pare it down, and factor in your intuition about it...
    – Luke Sawczak
    Commented Apr 8, 2017 at 17:20

'Il m'a demandé' is not enough to be used alone:
He ask for me :
Il m'a demandé de venir.
Il a demandé après moi.

He ask me :
Il m'a demandé mon avis.
Il m'a posé une question.


As an indirect object:

Il m'a demandé si je voulais passer le restant de mes jours avec lui. {without accord}

= "He asked (to) me if I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him."

As a direct object:

Il m'a demandée en mariage, enfin, si on veut... {with accord}

= "He asked for my hand in marriage."

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